I’ve always been a little socially fickle. In my teens I was loath to commit to any given activity for fear that something ‘better’ might come up that I’d then miss out on.
I’ve got better but I still find I have a tendency to flit from one thing to the other, trying to find that ‘best fit’ but often not really settling for anything.
Since we’ve been back here in Colorado I’ve attended quite a few meet ups and been to a number of social gatherings yet I still feel that what I’m looking for is eluding me.
The problem is, the thing that I am looking for is people who I feel I can commit to in some kind of real and vulnerable relationship.
The only way I’m going to find that however, is by becoming part of creating it. And that’s only going to happen by throwing my hat into the ring and committing myself, regardless of whether there is any certainty of it paying off.
Which brings me back to that whole thing of taking risks, of committing to a course of action without any real idea of how it might turn out.
Once I make that commitment however I realize that I make it that much easier for the next person to step up too and join me in creating that sense of growing community.
So many things require somebody taking that one little intentional step. Most of the time however we are content (though not really) to sit back and let someone else take it.
I’ve decided that I’m not going to do that anymore. I’m going to practice going out on a limb and being the one that gets things moving. Even if nothing comes of the actions themselves the fact that I’m taking them is a growth step for me.
I’m sure I’m not in the minority, yet most of us feel like we are because the ones usually stepping up and making things happen make it seem so easy.
We just assume that very few other people could really struggle with it and therefore berate ourselves for being amongst the few. This makes it even harder for us to get up the courage and go for it.
But, it does not have to be like that. Even one step in the right direction can set great things in motion. In doing this we just prove the validity of it.